8 Ways To Prevent An Angry Lifestyle


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Minimizing Problems With Anger Management

There are a number of things you can do in structuring your life to prevent anger from becoming problematic.

1.) Make a personal commitment to calmness.

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Calmness is freedom from agitation in the face of a
provoking situation-and calmness is a choice. It doesn’t
happen by accident, and may start with a statement like
this, “I promise to stay calm at work for one whole day.”
It takes practice, but the payoff is immense-calmness
promotes an internal sense of peace and tranquility-truly
a gift in our hectic lives!

2.) Anticipate and intercept your anger and frustration-and plan accordingly.morgan-basham-364865.jpg

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For example, let’s say Mondays are always hectic for you
and there’s nothing to be done to move things around to
change it. Get proactive! You might try beginning a
routine that includes getting to bed a half hour earlier
the night before. Monday morning you may try getting
up earlier to have a good breakfast and
spend some extra time with your family before you
head into the chaos. Remind yourself on the way to
work you can choose to stay calm throughout the day
no matter what. And if the prospect of staying late at
the office or store makes you crazy for fear of missing
your favorite Monday night television program, tape it
for later viewing!

3.) Realize you can say no to your anger.gemma-evans-131781.jpg

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We all receive numerous “invitations to anger” every
day-inconveniences, inconsiderate people, equipment
breakdowns, traffic jams-you name it! You don’t have to
get angry just because you could.

4.) Avoid useless or trivial conflictsfrida-bredesen-317281.jpg

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Pick your conflicts very carefully!

5.) Accept differences in others.levi-saunders-133027.jpg

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So many conflicts arise from the inability to accept and
respect differences in our family members, coworkers,
bosses, etc. It is easy to translate “you do things
differently than I do” to “you’re wrong.” Personal and
business relationships are enhanced with diversity~creativity
is increased, better solutions are arrived at
when problem solving, etc. Learn to view differences
with an appreciative spirit.

6.) Praise instead of punish.xan-griffin-420173.jpg

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We live in a society that is starved for praise and
recognition. We are interdependent beings who need
affirmation and positive regard from others to feel
whole. One way to feel less prone to anger and to
decrease the potential for conflict is to keep an eye out
for the positives and continually acknowledge them in

7.) Exercise self-care.ovayo-ntlabati-418459.jpg

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Good care and maintenance of your body is essential
for the prevention of anger. Feeling better physically
typically leads to a better spirit, which in turn serves as
a buffer against the many annoyances in daily life. Think
of the acronym HALT to begin focusing on this all-important

H – Hunger
A – Anxious
L – Lonely
T – Tired

The idea is that you are more likely to succumb to anger
when confronted with a situation when you are under
the influence of one of these factors, and extremely
likely when operating under more than one.

Hunger: While physical hunger can certainly fray one’s
spirits, this can refer to other types of hunger as well.
For example, you may be hungry for some attention,
affection, or affirmation. Remember to feed your body
physiologically, but also do things, which feed your soul
as well.

Anxiety: Anxiety and anger reinforce one another. Both
are part of the body’s natural “fight or flight” response
to perceived threats. Although anxiety can be low-key,
there can also be a buildup effect of being continually
confronted by situations, which trigger fear and concern.
The key antidote to anxiety is learning the technique of
relaxation. When learned well and practiced daily,
relaxation lowers stress and reduces the tendency to
“fight or flight” responses.

Loneliness: Loneliness may be an issue in the personal
realm or at work. Individuals may be experiencing
relationship difficulties in their families, or feeling estranged from their peers in the workplace. This may
make them more vulnerable to anger evoking
situations. Take steps to ensure you have an adequate
family or social support system-it’s one of the most
positive things you can do for the quality of your life,
and for your physical health!

Tiredness: Getting enough rest at today’s hectic pace is
most assuredly a challenge. But the low-grade fatigue
so characteristic of so many Americans can easily make
one much more susceptible to the many invitations to
anger extended every day. Getting proper rest coupled
with regular exercise is essential.

8.) Maintain proper balance.form-426157.jpg

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Bear in mind that a healthy lifestyle involves a balanced
focus on being, belonging, and doing. Take time for selfdiscovery
(being), social relationships (belonging), and
work you enjoy (doing). Remember that any one arena
typically cannot fulfill all three needs and structure your
life accordingly. Maximum life satisfaction is achieved
when balance is struck among all three aspects. On the
other hand, frustration builds when these needs are not
honored, and the tendency to look for things going
wrong is increased, thus making one more susceptible
to anger.

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Managing stress on a daily basis can even make what we consider to be fun in our lives stressful. The information shared here in this blog post may or may not be for you as an individual. If this little snippet of information is for you, you are more than welcome to the information provided as it is an overview generally in managing stress. If you run across this post by the sharing of other readers and it’s not for you just carry on with your lives as usual.

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Carry On….

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  1. Ask for Help.
  2. Call up an old friend
  3. Run.
  4. Change coffee break to exercise break.
  5. Count to ten – or 1000 – before exploding.
  6. Count your blessings – make a list.
  7. Tell someone “I love you.”
  8. Tell a joke.
  9. Stop and yawn.
  10. Cry.
  11. Meditate.
  12. Dance.
  13. Build a model ship.
  14. Angry? Talk to a friend about it.
  15. Apologize for a mistake.
  16. Stand up and stretch.
  17. Stop and look out the window
  18. Work a crossword puzzle
  19. Climb a Mountain.
  20. Eat an orange slowly… segment … by… segment.
  21. Eat a good breakfast.
  22. Forgive someone.
  23. Close your eyes. What do you see?
  24. Daydream – Spend your coffee break at the beach.
  25. Cut back on caffeine.
  26. Watch a really good movie.
  27. Read a good book.
  28. Plan ahead.
  29. Do one thing at a time.
  30. Fly a kite.
  31. Get a massage.
  32. Get a pet.

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  1. Go play with your dog.
  2. Go fishing.
  3. Hug a tree.
  4. Hug someone you love.
  5. Find someone you’re grateful to and thank them.
  6. Get a good night’s sleep.
  7. Get up fifteen minutes early.
  8. Keep a journal of thoughts and feelings.
  9. Laugh at something you did.
  10. Go for a brisk walk.
  11. Go swimming.
  12. Ride your bike to work.
  13. Go to work a different way.
  14. Laugh at something you did.
  15. Leave the car at home and take the bus.
  16. Lie in a hammock.
  17. Lift weights.
  18. Listen to the birds.
  19. Make love.
  20. Look at the big picture.
  21. Look closely at a flower, leaf, blade of grass or tree
  22. Look off into the distance.
  23. Wash the car.
  24. Wash the dog.
  25. Plant a flower.
  26. Smell a rose.
  27. Clasp your hands behind your head and stretch your
  28. Play a round of golf.
  29. Read something funny every day.
  30. Learn to say, “NO”.
  31. Roll your shoulders up and around in a circular
  32. Practice Yoga.

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  1. Sit by a fountain or stream. Close your eyes and
    hear the water.
  2. Do a good deed.
  3. Work out at the gym.
  4. Share your feelings with someone.
  5. Talk to yourself: “I can do a great job.” “I can stay
    calm under pressure.”
  6. Put a cat in your lap
  7. Put on some music.
  8. Put plants in our office.
  9. Put your feet up.
  10. Wear earplugs when it’s noisy.
  11. Make a list. Then follow it.
  12. Take a child to the playground.
  13. Take a deep breath and let it all out.
  14. Take a leisurely stroll.
  15. Take a long bath.
  16. Take a nap.
  17. Take an herb tea break.
  18. Take one day at a time.
  19. Take the backs roads.
  20. Take the stairs.
  21. Take time for the sunset – or sunrise.
  22. Take up knitting.
  23. Massage your temples.
  24. Quit smoking.
  25. Write a poem.
  26. Write a letter to the editor.
  27. Paint a peaceful scene – in your imagination.
  28. Make time for play.
  29. Sing a Song.
  30. Spend an evening without TV.
  31. Walk barefoot n the grass.
  32. Sit by a fire. Write down your fears.
  33. Write down your dreams.
  34. Write your congressman.
  35. Watch a cloud for 5 minutes.
  36. Watch an ant or other insect for 5 minutes.
  37. Turn cocktail hour into exercise hour.

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The stress I once dealt with became to an all time high after having major back surgery in December of 2001. Thank God for my mental strength & his healing. For today, I am free from torturing pain & prescription pills. rawpixel-com-315186.jpgPhoto by rawpixel.com on Unsplash

I want to say with all honesty of my remembrance that in October of 1999 the slight discomfort began. I was moving the furniture (a T.V. from Rent-A-Center on a stand) around in my rental property and bent down the wrong way and as the days & months went by the pain was more excrutiating from that point (Oct. to Dec.). After several doctor’s visits they claimed it was arthiritis, but my body was telling me something totally different. To make a long story short as possible, I ended up having a herniated disk down by my tailbone that caused my back muscles to lock to protect my spine, so I was on a walker at the age of 27. I suffered with this form of what I considered extremely high torture for 3 months because the doctors wanted to try alternative options (Intense Physical Therapy) before surgery. scott-webb-22437.jpgPhoto by Scott Webb on Unsplash

This moment in my lifetime ago led to clinical depression & I started having stress related seizures that really didn’t subside until 2014. The seizures were considered psychogenic (of the  mind)  adjectivePsychology. 1. having origin in the mind or in a mental condition or process: a psychogenic disorder (psychogenic. (n.d.). Dictionary.com Unabridged. Retrieved January 14, 2018 from Dictionary.com website http://www.dictionary.com/browse/psychogenic)

To break this down in simpliar terms, I was holding things mentally & releasing it physically through my body. Not only was my body being tortured, I could no longer work & was on disability from March of 2002 until April of 2007. So I basically had to bring my mind & body back in sync with each other. cristian-newman-273305.jpgPhoto by Cristian Newman on Unsplash

I would love to share with you how I learned to control my stress levels over the years & if it even thinks of rising now. I no longer suffer with that type of depression. When I feel as if my stress level peaks out at the mildest level I have at least:

15 Ways To Maintain My Stress Levels

All I can say about this is it is #1 for a reason. It is a constant work in progress. I was once on a straight road, but I swerved going around the curve & now my freaking tires are hanging off & I am still waiting on a tow truck. Guess what I don’t beat myself up about that shit because I can eat a salad for 30 days straight if that was the case because I love it. However, my ultimate goal is to become a pescatatian, one whose diet includes fish but no other meat.

  • Exercising

I literally shook the fat off my plump ass & got down to a size 10-12, but I need to strike it back up because my toosh is back in a 14-16 & my girls are trying to pry their way out of my work shirts. So it’s time to start back moving my fat ass.

The breathing techniques were inspired by the psychiatrist who treated me for clinical depression, so these are the most consistent in my everyday life so I want end up on a new episode of Snapped.

OMG! If I didn’t believe in naps when I was a child, I surely do my best to get all my rest now because I can’t function without it.

  • Hot Therapy

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And I do mean a very hot shower/bath. Now if I decide to do a bath I will emmerse my body in a tub of hot water, with bubbles, a capful of clorox & alcohol. This is just what I do because that’s how I was raised. Please Do What Is Best For YOU I will not be responsible if you blister. <<<<ENTER AT YOUR OWN RISK>>>>

  • Old School Music

Like LTD Old, simply because I was born in the early 70’s & this is what my mother played in our house growing up! The music was just so different back then. However, I don’t knock the music today just in case I decide to turn up.

  • Coloring

I love to color especially when I am extremely feeling stressors. I have crayons, coloring books, & color pencils/pens. I colored these when I was experiencing hardships with my second husband (divorced). I don’t share my coloring books with anyone no matter who you are unless I have occular proof (L.O.L.) you can really color inside the lines.

  • ReadingReading is so Fun-Da-Mental. The last page turners I read were:

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Dare to embrace your wild side as five of the brightest imaginations in black literature today—Michelle Cuttino, Shakir Rashaan, Anna Black, Jada Pearl, and N’Tyse—come together to weave an unforgettable exploration of female liberation and self-gratifying sexual healing. These risqué tales of steamy passion bloom from illicit affairs, secret fetishes, romantic flings, and pure unadulterated happenstance.
Paperback, 272 pages
Published March 22nd 2016 by Strebor Books
159309616X (ISBN13: 9781593096168)

The Coldest Winter EverThe Coldest Winter Ever

The stunning national bestseller now features an illuminating discussion with Sister Souljah — her secret thoughts on creating the story that has sold more than one million copies worldwide and introduced readers everywhere to the real ghetto experience. Here are answers to the questions fans everywhere have been asking; the meanings and inspirations behind such memorable characters as Winter, Midnight, and Santiaga; and insights into why and how Souljah conceived of one of the most powerful novels of our time.
Paperback, 544 pages
Published February 1st 2006 by Pocket Star (first published April 1st 1999)
Original Title
The Coldest Winter Ever
1416521690 (ISBN13: 9781416521693)


  • Watch Your Favorite T.V. Series

Law OrderLaw & Order: Special Victims Unit TV-14 | | CrimeDramaMystery | TV Series (1999– )

  • Scream

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One of my co-workers who is a lot older than myself said to me one day in the Deli “Ms. Flo I just go to my car on my lunch break and just scream & you should try it.” I said thank you Mrs. V. I’ am going to try it. So I did just that. Screaming releases so much tension on a different level at the work place trust me. You will be a totally different person. Try it, then let me know what you think. *Be Mindful of Your Surroundings* people may think you have lost ever fiber of your being.

  • Margaritasmargarita-2774135

A couple of these after a work week….Yes! DON’T DRINK & DRIVE

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Leave anything pertaining to your job at the front door once you exit after clocking out.
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It’s not easy to be as positive as you need to be on a daily basis, but start with good vibes only & all the negativity Nancy’s we be in their own little negative mindsets
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Light your favorite candles! I love Bath & Body Works, no particular scent but it has t be something I really like.

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