8 Ways To Prevent An Angry Lifestyle

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Minimizing Problems With Anger Management

There are a number of things you can do in structuring your life to prevent anger from becoming problematic.

1.) Make a personal commitment to calmness.

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Calmness is freedom from agitation in the face of a
provoking situation-and calmness is a choice. It doesn’t
happen by accident, and may start with a statement like
this, “I promise to stay calm at work for one whole day.”
It takes practice, but the payoff is immense-calmness
promotes an internal sense of peace and tranquility-truly
a gift in our hectic lives!

2.) Anticipate and intercept your anger and frustration-and plan accordingly.morgan-basham-364865.jpg

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For example, let’s say Mondays are always hectic for you
and there’s nothing to be done to move things around to
change it. Get proactive! You might try beginning a
routine that includes getting to bed a half hour earlier
the night before. Monday morning you may try getting
up earlier to have a good breakfast and
spend some extra time with your family before you
head into the chaos. Remind yourself on the way to
work you can choose to stay calm throughout the day
no matter what. And if the prospect of staying late at
the office or store makes you crazy for fear of missing
your favorite Monday night television program, tape it
for later viewing!

3.) Realize you can say no to your anger.gemma-evans-131781.jpg

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We all receive numerous “invitations to anger” every
day-inconveniences, inconsiderate people, equipment
breakdowns, traffic jams-you name it! You don’t have to
get angry just because you could.

4.) Avoid useless or trivial conflictsfrida-bredesen-317281.jpg

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Pick your conflicts very carefully!

5.) Accept differences in others.levi-saunders-133027.jpg

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So many conflicts arise from the inability to accept and
respect differences in our family members, coworkers,
bosses, etc. It is easy to translate “you do things
differently than I do” to “you’re wrong.” Personal and
business relationships are enhanced with diversity~creativity
is increased, better solutions are arrived at
when problem solving, etc. Learn to view differences
with an appreciative spirit.

6.) Praise instead of punish.xan-griffin-420173.jpg

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We live in a society that is starved for praise and
recognition. We are interdependent beings who need
affirmation and positive regard from others to feel
whole. One way to feel less prone to anger and to
decrease the potential for conflict is to keep an eye out
for the positives and continually acknowledge them in
others.

7.) Exercise self-care.ovayo-ntlabati-418459.jpg

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Good care and maintenance of your body is essential
for the prevention of anger. Feeling better physically
typically leads to a better spirit, which in turn serves as
a buffer against the many annoyances in daily life. Think
of the acronym HALT to begin focusing on this all-important
habit:

H – Hunger
A – Anxious
L – Lonely
T – Tired

The idea is that you are more likely to succumb to anger
when confronted with a situation when you are under
the influence of one of these factors, and extremely
likely when operating under more than one.

Hunger: While physical hunger can certainly fray one’s
spirits, this can refer to other types of hunger as well.
For example, you may be hungry for some attention,
affection, or affirmation. Remember to feed your body
physiologically, but also do things, which feed your soul
as well.

Anxiety: Anxiety and anger reinforce one another. Both
are part of the body’s natural “fight or flight” response
to perceived threats. Although anxiety can be low-key,
there can also be a buildup effect of being continually
confronted by situations, which trigger fear and concern.
The key antidote to anxiety is learning the technique of
relaxation. When learned well and practiced daily,
relaxation lowers stress and reduces the tendency to
“fight or flight” responses.

Loneliness: Loneliness may be an issue in the personal
realm or at work. Individuals may be experiencing
relationship difficulties in their families, or feeling estranged from their peers in the workplace. This may
make them more vulnerable to anger evoking
situations. Take steps to ensure you have an adequate
family or social support system-it’s one of the most
positive things you can do for the quality of your life,
and for your physical health!

Tiredness: Getting enough rest at today’s hectic pace is
most assuredly a challenge. But the low-grade fatigue
so characteristic of so many Americans can easily make
one much more susceptible to the many invitations to
anger extended every day. Getting proper rest coupled
with regular exercise is essential.

8.) Maintain proper balance.form-426157.jpg

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Bear in mind that a healthy lifestyle involves a balanced
focus on being, belonging, and doing. Take time for selfdiscovery
(being), social relationships (belonging), and
work you enjoy (doing). Remember that any one arena
typically cannot fulfill all three needs and structure your
life accordingly. Maximum life satisfaction is achieved
when balance is struck among all three aspects. On the
other hand, frustration builds when these needs are not
honored, and the tendency to look for things going
wrong is increased, thus making one more susceptible
to anger.

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 I would love to introduce you to five (5) blogs that I personally follow whether you have a few following or many. I actually follow a variety of bloggers not just those that are meant To Inspire Us!

I hope they don’t mind me sharing the love.

The five featured bloggers for the weeks of 02/02 to 02/16 are as follows:

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I want to thank all of my readers whether I follow you, you follow me & my likers as well. I hope you will enjoy some new readers in the community.

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To All My Readers

I am so excited to share my 100 blog post from my first day here in the blogosphere to this one. I have done my best to be consistent as humanly possible, set several schedule to adhere to my lifestyle, have endured several writer’s blocks, and unsure of what readers would actually be looking for. I stop trying to figure any of this out & just  simply decided to go with the Ms. Flo…LOL!

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I started off wanting or just assuming I must post everyday & it would be a great idea but my 40 an hour work week comes along with sleep & many other life duties. I found out real quick that blogging takes time and an everyday schedule is a lot more serious than just picking me three or four days out of the week for consistency. However, I still feel fueled with fire to post daily & when that urge strikes I’m going for the gusto. Whatever the case maybe I am here and still thriving.

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Now since my Home page/Archives has 302 views to date, why not offer the first 100 post all in one place: in a blog post. Please enjoy reading what you may have missed because they are archived. Today, I am sharing my first 100 post from Oct 20, 2017 when I was a newbie to Jan 30, 2018 which displays #100.

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5 Simple Tips For Self-Improvement

Are you looking to develop communication skills, maximize your time or simply feel better about yourself?gerome-viavant-217865.jpgPhoto by Gerome Viavant on Unsplash

If you’re like most people, you have goals you want to achieve. Maybe you want to get better at something. Maybe you want to break a bad habit. There’s almost always an area where you can learn, grow and develop.isaiah-mcclean-412247.jpgPhoto by Isaiah McClean on Unsplash

Self-improvement doesn’t have to be complicated. Consider some of these five simple tips:

Books, newspaper articles, blogs – There’s a wealth of information out there. Pick a topic and research it. Start a book club. Reading and discussion keep you sharp and make for good conversation.

  • Learn a new language.

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Learning a new language can be frustrating and rewarding at the same time. And by learning a new language, you can also learn about a new culture.

Hobbies are an important part of self-care. It’s good to do something that’s just for you. And it can help you manage the stress of everyday life.

Speaker Jim Rohn, said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”  Whether or not you believe this, negative people can bring you down. You’ll always have negative people in your life. But try to avoid them. Instead, surround yourself with positive, supportive people.

Are you carrying around a past hurt? It might be time to let it go. Holding onto these old wounds can keep you from becoming the best version of yourself.

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6 Basic Quick Tips For Goal Setting

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Anyone can set goals. It’s reaching them that’s the hard part. It’s important to set the bar at the right height for success and then follow through. This  article can help you clear a path to success.

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*Realistic?
*Attainable?
*Concrete?
*Positive?
*Motivating?
*Measurable?

Remember that most goals are good goals, they just need a little work! Start off small…Don’t overwhelm yourself with your goals!! After all, they are supposed to be good for you! If you do not make your set goal, it is not because you are a failure or you are not good enough. Use the opportunity as a learning experience to get up and try again. If something doesn’t work, it is not about trying again and again, but about DOING SOMETHING DIFFERENT.

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“I want to lose 25 pounds.”

“I want to be making a lot more money”

“I want to be a better husband and father.”

“I would like to learn Spanish.”

“I want to exercise at least three times a week.”

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Do any of these sound familiar? Do these goals remind you of any goals you have set for yourself? Are these good goals to have? If you answered “Yes” to any of these questions, then this article may be able to benefit you greatly.

How many times do you wake up, take a look in the mirror, and think “I hate being overweight!! I’m going to lose 50 pounds!!” Maybe you even say it out loud, or jot it down on a scrap of paper. But somehow, it just doesn’t happen. Why is setting goals and achieving them seem to be so challenging for so many of us? One very common reason is not having well-set goals.

Now, each of the goals above is laudable. But to have the highest chance of being accomplished, they could use a bit of work. Following is a set of qualifications for goals, a set of criteria to determine if what you’ve come up with are truly well-set goals.

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*Realistic?
— Can this goal be realistically met?

*Attainable?
— Could this goal truly be achieved?

*Concrete?
— Is this goal specific and set forth in sufficient detail?

*Positive?
— Is this goal stated in a positive form?

*Motivating?
— Does this goal motivate you to accomplish it, or does it discourage you?

*Measurable?
— Is this goal time-limited?

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Following these simple criteria will help you set goals that are more manageable and will give them a higher likelihood of being achieved.

For example, say you want to lose some weight. Let’s look at this goal compared to some sound criteria for good goal setting:

*Realistic?
— Losing some weight can definitely be realistically met.

*Attainable?
— Losing some weight is usually pretty easily attainable as well.

*Concrete?
RED FLAG!! This goal is not specific, or outlined with any detail. How much is “some” weight?
Ten pounds? Twenty? And lost within two weeks? Six months?
—Suggestion: I want to lose 20 lbs. in six months. = GREEN FLAG!

*Positive?
— This goal is stated in a positive form, as opposed to stating that you do not want to gain anymore weight.

*Motivating?
— This one is up to you. All too often, we set goals that are so high they actually hinder us from meeting them. Take for instance, setting a goal of working out every day of the week may wind up being intimidating. Instead, making a goal to work out three days a week is much more manageable and much less overwhelming.

*Measurable?
RED FLAG!! This goal is not time-limited or measurable.
—Suggestion: I want to lose 10 lbs in three months and take two inches off my waist = GREEN FLAG!

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Let this example guide you as you set your goals by making sure that, at a minimum, your goal meets the above criteria. Spend some time thinking about why a particular goal is desired and what it will mean to you. Losing weight, for example, will improve your appearance, give you more energy, raise your level of self-esteem and self confidence, lower your blood pressure, etc. Now that’s motivating!!!

Another important key is to write your goals down. Then break them down into manageable steps. Take time to review your goals frequently–some experts suggest reviewing them on a daily basis! This keeps you focused on achieving them, and helps you make better decisions about how to manage your time and priorities. Taking the time to set well-thought out goals can truly make a difference and set you well on your
way to achieving them and becoming more successful–at whatever you choose to do.

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10 Tips For A More Sound Sleep

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  1. Go bland before bedtime. To fall asleep quickly,
    avoid caffeine, nicotine and alcohol for at least four
    hours before you go to bed.
  2. Be predictable. Go to bed around the same time
    every night, and try to follow a similar routine. Waking
    the same time every morning is also essential in keeping
    a regular sleep schedule.

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  1. Don’t toss and turn. If you can’t sleep after 20
    minutes, get out of bed and do something else until you
    feel sleepy again. Tossing and turning may cause more
    anxiety than relaxation.
  2. Save the bed for sleep and sex. Avoid paying bills,
    reading the paper or watching TV in bed. It is important
    to correlate your bed with sleep, not stress.

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  1. Take a bath. Take a warm bath before bedtime to
    help your body relax. You may want to add lavender or
    other soothing oils into your bath water. Also, taking a
    bath can be more relaxing than a shower.
  2. Exercise early. If you exercise, do it before dinner,
    not after. Exercising late at night can wake you up
    instead of help you to relax.

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  1. Make your room dark. People usually sleep best in
    a cool, dark environment. Hanging heavy drapes or
    wearing a sleep mask may help.
  2. Grab a snack. It’s hard to sleep hungry, so try a
    light snack before bedtime. Warm milk is thought to
    naturally induce sleep by releasing the natural hormone
    L-Triptaphan. Keep the meal light, because eating a
    large meal can cause restlessness.

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  1. Cut naps short. If you have trouble falling asleep,
    consider avoiding naps. At the very least, limit them to
    less than an hour before mid-afternoon.
  2. Address your stress. If daytime troubles keep you
    awake, try jotting notes about ways to deal with them.
    Leave stress at the bedroom door, if possible.

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101 Ideas On How To Relieve Stress

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Managing stress on a daily basis can even make what we consider to be fun in our lives stressful. The information shared here in this blog post may or may not be for you as an individual. If this little snippet of information is for you, you are more than welcome to the information provided as it is an overview generally in managing stress. If you run across this post by the sharing of other readers and it’s not for you just carry on with your lives as usual.

Any health issues you are foregoing should be treated by a therapist, physician, or any other type of health professional.

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LET US ALL BE GREAT !

Carry On….

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  1. Ask for Help.
  2. Call up an old friend
  3. Run.
  4. Change coffee break to exercise break.
  5. Count to ten – or 1000 – before exploding.
  6. Count your blessings – make a list.
  7. Tell someone “I love you.”
  8. Tell a joke.
  9. Stop and yawn.
  10. Cry.
  11. Meditate.
  12. Dance.
  13. Build a model ship.
  14. Angry? Talk to a friend about it.
  15. Apologize for a mistake.
  16. Stand up and stretch.
  17. Stop and look out the window
  18. Work a crossword puzzle
  19. Climb a Mountain.
  20. Eat an orange slowly… segment … by… segment.
  21. Eat a good breakfast.
  22. Forgive someone.
  23. Close your eyes. What do you see?
  24. Daydream – Spend your coffee break at the beach.
  25. Cut back on caffeine.
  26. Watch a really good movie.
  27. Read a good book.
  28. Plan ahead.
  29. Do one thing at a time.
  30. Fly a kite.
  31. Get a massage.
  32. Get a pet.

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  1. Go play with your dog.
  2. Go fishing.
  3. Hug a tree.
  4. Hug someone you love.
  5. Find someone you’re grateful to and thank them.
  6. Get a good night’s sleep.
  7. Get up fifteen minutes early.
  8. Keep a journal of thoughts and feelings.
  9. Laugh at something you did.
  10. Go for a brisk walk.
  11. Go swimming.
  12. Ride your bike to work.
  13. Go to work a different way.
  14. Laugh at something you did.
  15. Leave the car at home and take the bus.
  16. Lie in a hammock.
  17. Lift weights.
  18. Listen to the birds.
  19. Make love.
  20. Look at the big picture.
  21. Look closely at a flower, leaf, blade of grass or tree
    trunk.
  22. Look off into the distance.
  23. Wash the car.
  24. Wash the dog.
  25. Plant a flower.
  26. Smell a rose.
  27. Clasp your hands behind your head and stretch your
    shoulders.
  28. Play a round of golf.
  29. Read something funny every day.
  30. Learn to say, “NO”.
  31. Roll your shoulders up and around in a circular
    motion.
  32. Practice Yoga.

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  1. Sit by a fountain or stream. Close your eyes and
    hear the water.
  2. Do a good deed.
  3. Work out at the gym.
  4. Share your feelings with someone.
  5. Talk to yourself: “I can do a great job.” “I can stay
    calm under pressure.”
  6. Put a cat in your lap
  7. Put on some music.
  8. Put plants in our office.
  9. Put your feet up.
  10. Wear earplugs when it’s noisy.
  11. Make a list. Then follow it.
  12. Take a child to the playground.
  13. Take a deep breath and let it all out.
  14. Take a leisurely stroll.
  15. Take a long bath.
  16. Take a nap.
  17. Take an herb tea break.
  18. Take one day at a time.
  19. Take the backs roads.
  20. Take the stairs.
  21. Take time for the sunset – or sunrise.
  22. Take up knitting.
  23. Massage your temples.
  24. Quit smoking.
  25. Write a poem.
  26. Write a letter to the editor.
  27. Paint a peaceful scene – in your imagination.
  28. Make time for play.
  29. Sing a Song.
  30. Spend an evening without TV.
  31. Walk barefoot n the grass.
  32. Sit by a fire. Write down your fears.
  33. Write down your dreams.
  34. Write your congressman.
  35. Watch a cloud for 5 minutes.
  36. Watch an ant or other insect for 5 minutes.
  37. Turn cocktail hour into exercise hour.

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5 (+) New Friends To Follow on Friday

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 I would love to introduce you to five (5) blogs that I personally follow whether you have a few following or many. I actually follow a variety of bloggers not just those that are meant To Inspire Us!

I hope they don’t mind me sharing the love.

The five featured bloggers for the weeks of 01/19 to 02/02 are as follows:

I want to thank all of my readers whether I follow you, you follow me & my likers as well. I hope you will enjoy some new readers in the community.

 Totally New Bloggers

If we have not yet connected & you will love to be a featured blogger in Follow Friday’s to gain exposure in the community

**PLEASE** provide me with detailed, yet brief information in the comments.

  • Briefly Share What Your Blog Is About
  • Provide a Link To Your Initial Blog or a Post/Link from Your Blog from current posts
  • Share Another Blogger/Follower in Your Community
  • Provide a Link to Their Blog or a Favorite Post You Love From Them
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15 Ways To Maintain Our Stress Levels

The stress I once dealt with became to an all time high after having major back surgery in December of 2001. Thank God for my mental strength & his healing. For today, I am free from torturing pain & prescription pills. rawpixel-com-315186.jpgPhoto by rawpixel.com on Unsplash

I want to say with all honesty of my remembrance that in October of 1999 the slight discomfort began. I was moving the furniture (a T.V. from Rent-A-Center on a stand) around in my rental property and bent down the wrong way and as the days & months went by the pain was more excrutiating from that point (Oct. to Dec.). After several doctor’s visits they claimed it was arthiritis, but my body was telling me something totally different. To make a long story short as possible, I ended up having a herniated disk down by my tailbone that caused my back muscles to lock to protect my spine, so I was on a walker at the age of 27. I suffered with this form of what I considered extremely high torture for 3 months because the doctors wanted to try alternative options (Intense Physical Therapy) before surgery. scott-webb-22437.jpgPhoto by Scott Webb on Unsplash

This moment in my lifetime ago led to clinical depression & I started having stress related seizures that really didn’t subside until 2014. The seizures were considered psychogenic (of the  mind)  adjectivePsychology. 1. having origin in the mind or in a mental condition or process: a psychogenic disorder (psychogenic. (n.d.). Dictionary.com Unabridged. Retrieved January 14, 2018 from Dictionary.com website http://www.dictionary.com/browse/psychogenic)

To break this down in simpliar terms, I was holding things mentally & releasing it physically through my body. Not only was my body being tortured, I could no longer work & was on disability from March of 2002 until April of 2007. So I basically had to bring my mind & body back in sync with each other. cristian-newman-273305.jpgPhoto by Cristian Newman on Unsplash

I would love to share with you how I learned to control my stress levels over the years & if it even thinks of rising now. I no longer suffer with that type of depression. When I feel as if my stress level peaks out at the mildest level I have at least:

15 Ways To Maintain My Stress Levels

All I can say about this is it is #1 for a reason. It is a constant work in progress. I was once on a straight road, but I swerved going around the curve & now my freaking tires are hanging off & I am still waiting on a tow truck. Guess what I don’t beat myself up about that shit because I can eat a salad for 30 days straight if that was the case because I love it. However, my ultimate goal is to become a pescatatian, one whose diet includes fish but no other meat.

  • Exercising

I literally shook the fat off my plump ass & got down to a size 10-12, but I need to strike it back up because my toosh is back in a 14-16 & my girls are trying to pry their way out of my work shirts. So it’s time to start back moving my fat ass.

The breathing techniques were inspired by the psychiatrist who treated me for clinical depression, so these are the most consistent in my everyday life so I want end up on a new episode of Snapped.

OMG! If I didn’t believe in naps when I was a child, I surely do my best to get all my rest now because I can’t function without it.

  • Hot Therapy

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And I do mean a very hot shower/bath. Now if I decide to do a bath I will emmerse my body in a tub of hot water, with bubbles, a capful of clorox & alcohol. This is just what I do because that’s how I was raised. Please Do What Is Best For YOU I will not be responsible if you blister. <<<<ENTER AT YOUR OWN RISK>>>>

  • Old School Music

Like LTD Old, simply because I was born in the early 70’s & this is what my mother played in our house growing up! The music was just so different back then. However, I don’t knock the music today just in case I decide to turn up.

  • Coloring

I love to color especially when I am extremely feeling stressors. I have crayons, coloring books, & color pencils/pens. I colored these when I was experiencing hardships with my second husband (divorced). I don’t share my coloring books with anyone no matter who you are unless I have occular proof (L.O.L.) you can really color inside the lines.

  • Reading 

    Reading is so Fun-Da-Mental. The last page turners I read were:

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by N’tyse (Editor) Five of the most daring voices in African American literature today explore the sizzling, wildly popular genre of erotica in this unique collection edited by the author who “cleverly delivers all that her name stands for: Never Tell Your Secrets” (Zane). 

Dare to embrace your wild side as five of the brightest imaginations in black literature today—Michelle Cuttino, Shakir Rashaan, Anna Black, Jada Pearl, and N’Tyse—come together to weave an unforgettable exploration of female liberation and self-gratifying sexual healing. These risqué tales of steamy passion bloom from illicit affairs, secret fetishes, romantic flings, and pure unadulterated happenstance.
Paperback, 272 pages
Published March 22nd 2016 by Strebor Books
ISBN
159309616X (ISBN13: 9781593096168)

The Coldest Winter EverThe Coldest Winter Ever

The stunning national bestseller now features an illuminating discussion with Sister Souljah — her secret thoughts on creating the story that has sold more than one million copies worldwide and introduced readers everywhere to the real ghetto experience. Here are answers to the questions fans everywhere have been asking; the meanings and inspirations behind such memorable characters as Winter, Midnight, and Santiaga; and insights into why and how Souljah conceived of one of the most powerful novels of our time.
Paperback, 544 pages
Published February 1st 2006 by Pocket Star (first published April 1st 1999)
Original Title
The Coldest Winter Ever
ISBN
1416521690 (ISBN13: 9781416521693)

 

  • Watch Your Favorite T.V. Series

Law OrderLaw & Order: Special Victims Unit TV-14 | | CrimeDramaMystery | TV Series (1999– )

  • Scream

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One of my co-workers who is a lot older than myself said to me one day in the Deli “Ms. Flo I just go to my car on my lunch break and just scream & you should try it.” I said thank you Mrs. V. I’ am going to try it. So I did just that. Screaming releases so much tension on a different level at the work place trust me. You will be a totally different person. Try it, then let me know what you think. *Be Mindful of Your Surroundings* people may think you have lost ever fiber of your being.

  • Margaritasmargarita-2774135

A couple of these after a work week….Yes! DON’T DRINK & DRIVE

 
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Leave anything pertaining to your job at the front door once you exit after clocking out.
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It’s not easy to be as positive as you need to be on a daily basis, but start with good vibes only & all the negativity Nancy’s we be in their own little negative mindsets
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Light your favorite candles! I love Bath & Body Works, no particular scent but it has t be something I really like.

Write a great detailed post on your blog with some amazing Stock Photos

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A Sunday Affirmation for You! 01.14

“Today is a new day and it brings with it a new set of opportunities for me to act on.
I am attentive to the opportunities and I seize them as they arise.
I have full confidence in myself and my abilities.
I can do all things that I commit myself to.
No obstacle is too big or too difficult for me to handle because what lies inside me is greater than what lies ahead of me.
I am committed to improving myself and I am getting better daily.
I am not held back by regret or mistakes from the past.
I am moving forward daily.
Absolutely nothing is impossible for me.”
― Idowu KoyenikanWealth for All: Living a Life of Success at the Edge of Your Ability

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